My Experiences With Birth Control
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Introduction
This page contains descriptions of my personal experiences. Who am I? I'm the person who made this website. Most of this website is dedicated to general information in terms of facts and such. While this page is factual, it will not apply to everyone's experiences. Probably because it is not about everyone's experiences. It is about my experiences.
More specifically, it is about things that happened to me. My experiences in regards to various birth control and how I feel about it. Not everyone is going to have these experiences with these treatments.
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General Information
I am a transgender man and despite common misconceptions - taking testosterone is not a form of birth control.
[Note, this section has been moved from the "reasons" page and will be expanded at some point. This message will be removed once this page is filled out more.]
Mirena IUD
In October of 2024 (around 2 months postpartum), I had the Mirena IUD placed while under general anesthesia. The Mirena was presented to me as the best possible birth control. The doctor who suggested it stated that she recommends this IUD for all of her transmasculine patients. I was given oxycodone to manage the pain. The oxycodone did not reduce the pain of the IUD. Not even slightly. The pain from the IUD started from the moment I woke up from the anesthesia, and did not stop until I had the IUD removed 2 weeks later. Allegedly, the majority of people who get an IUD forget that it is there. I have no idea how it is possible to "forget" that a small plastic rod is constantly poking and digging into your insides and shifting around with every step that you take, and any time you have anything pressed against your abdomen, but many women claim that they are unable to feel this. Personally, I trust the receptionist at the OBGYN who told me that most people have those things removed after a week. Genuinely, it is a miracle that I even lasted 2 weeks.
The worst part of it was that I was unable to hold my own child without pain, as the pressure against my abdomen would cause the IUD to dig into my body even worse.
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Tubal Litigation
Prior to the IUD, I had been insisting that I wanted to get a hysterectomy. My doctor continued to disagree, presenting alternative options. She pressured me into getting my tubes removed as a better alternative. Reluctantly (and motivated by misinformation on how hysterectomies worked, as this doctor preferred that I make decisions on my body based on the lies that she told me, attempting to guide me into doing what she wanted rather than what I wanted) I underwent bilateral tubal litigation. I asked to confirm, and it was the version where they were removed rather than tied off, as that is what is more commonly done nowadays.
It left 3 small scars on my already scarred abdomen. One of which is in my bellybutton. Its in a spot that other people struggle to see, but I can see whenever I look down. I didn't want this. I wanted a hysterectomy. I don't know why I allowed myself to be tricked like that. I should've done more research. It wasn't until I started working more on the hysterectomy page for this website that I realized how much of what I had been told was so deliberately misleading.
Whenever I have abdominal pain, I think about it. I think that if I had had my uterus removed, I would be a lot happier. I want it to be done but I don't want to undergo surgery again. How am I supposed to trust that whatever doctor does it will have my best interests in mind? Will actually do what I want them to do. I've gotten so used to people lying to me. It is as though the more power someone has over my body, the less honest they will be with me.
I want to get bottom surgery, but how can I trust that I will find a doctor that will give me the results that I want rather than ruin my body? Most people will inflict harm when they are put in a position to do so. How am I supposed to improve or better my life when help is rarely available from people who are meant to be helping.
If I could find a reputable, affordable surgeon who could remove my uterus and give me a sizable, functional penis - just rearrange everything to a better format - I would sign up right away. Part of me knows that that sort of thing exists. There are technically good people out there who do their jobs as they should. I don't know if I'll be lucky enough to experience that. I think I'm just meant to be in pain.
