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Dating Advice

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Introduction

You may be wondering, hey! Transgender Dictionary person!?!? What makes YOU qualified to give out dating advice? You don't know me. You don't know my situation.

Well, you see, dear reader... EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. I HAVE EVER GIVEN ANYONE DATING ADVICE. And had that advice ignored - that person's life ended up terrible.

So far, I have had at least 4 different women send me photos of bruises that they sustained after ignoring me when I gave them advice. Not just ignoring me, but doing the exact thing I said not to do. I have decided to no longer give specific people dating advice, as they clearly ignore it.

Instead, I have dedicated this page of The Transgender Dictionary to various advice regarding dating. The rest of this page will include advice and information on both broad and specific topics. These are not all specific to any particular gender identity or sexual orientation (except the ones that are).

General Information

Dating advice is advice that is given to someone in a relationship.

For Heterosexual Men

I am a straight man attracted to a trans woman. Am I still straight?
Yes.

I am a straight man attracted to a trans man. Am I still straight?
No.

For Heterosexual Women

I am a straight woman attracted to a trans woman. Am I still straight?
No.

I am a straight woman attracted to a trans man. Am I still straight?
Yes.

For Transgender Women

I am a transgender woman in a relationship with a cisgender woman who does not want me to transition or wants to limit my transition. Should I break up with her?
Yes.

I am a transgender woman in a relationship with a cisgender man who does not want me to transition or wants to limit my transition. Should I break up with her?
Yes.

For Transgender Men

I am a transgender man in a relationship with a cisgender man who does not want me to transition or wants to limit my transition. Should I break up with him?
Yes.

I am a transgender man in a relationship with a cisgender woman who does not want me to transition or wants to limit my transition. Should I break up with him?
Yes.

For Transgender or Nonbinary People (in general)

I am a transgender or nonbinary person in a relationship with a cisgender person who does not want me to transition or wants to limit my transition. Should I break up with them?
Yes.

I am a transgender or nonbinary person in a relationship with a cisgender person, and I am afraid that my cisgender partner will not accept me if I transition. Should I transition?
Yes, and you should break up with the cisgender partner if they do not accept and respect your transition.

I am a transgender or nonbinary person in a relationship with another transgender person whose sexual orientation contradicts with the nature of our relationship in a way that invalidates my gender identity. Should I break up with my partner?
Yes.

I am a transgender or nonbinary person in a relationship with someone who will break up with me if I transition. Should I transition?

Yes, your personal happiness and well-being should not be reliant on the validation on another person, but rather on happiness in your own self. It is more important that you be comfortable within your own body; rather than someone else be comfortable with your body. You are the one living in it.

For Lesbians

I am a lesbian attracted to a trans woman, am I still a lesbian?
Yes.

For Gay Men

I am a gay man attracted to a trans man, am I still a gay man?
Yes.

Oddly Specific

These are scenarios that are very specific.

Scenario 1

If you are in a relationship with someone who has already hit you multiple times and makes you feel miserable, break up with em. If your partner refuses to use lube, break up with em.

Scenario 2

Do not attempt to have a long-term relationship with anyone on Grindr. It is a bad idea.

Scenario 3

If your partner has hit you, they will hit you again. Leave them.

Chasers

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Additional Resources

See also, sexuality page.